The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without an honest effort and understanding.
1. BANISH THE SHAME
To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspect of the personality as present and real. This act is essential for self-knowledge, and it, therefore, as a rule, meet with resistance. These shadows are repressed elements of the personality which we choose not to be identified with.
– Carl Jung
Shadows lurk in the deep recesses of the psyche. It is buried in the heart, in mind; it is part of us. It follows us, it frightens us, and they come to us in different ways, but always, fits our lifestyle, our beliefs, or thereof. The shadow is not a mere concept or a matter of perception. It is authentic.
Just as there is light, there is also darkness. Is it possible to deny the shadow element? It is usually the worst side of the person. Just as there is the best side, I call it my gift. There is also a shadow. The courageous person may have a cowardly shadow. The kind, gentle, and caring person may have a darker side hiding behind all that softness. Even among the most benevolent, the most respected personalities and leaders in every field of endeavor, part of their shadow element peeks through their eloquence and their elegance.
2. KEEP A JOURNAL
You'll start to see when you are falling out of that gift, I know it is hard to believe, but you'll far less if you concentrate more on how fabulous you feel when you are vibrating higher.
Is it possible to ignore or avoid the shadow? Some call it demons that stick around every dark corner, every dangerous turn, in every struggle and conflict. When we are at the lowest point in our lives, shadows haunt us. Make us feel like horrible people that don't deserve love.
3. LAUGH AT YOURSELF
You heard me correctly. When you are in your shadow, Stop, drop, and laugh. Do not give the behavior power.
It is that part of ourselves that we leave in the closet as we face our public and put our best foot forward. Hide them, deny them, suppress them, would they just vanish? That mask we wear out in the world, like we cannot be our true authentic selves?
4. MEDITATE AND FOCUS ON SELF LOVE, COMPASSION AND REMEMBER, EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES
These actions may end up attracting these shadows into our lives in other ways.
Do shadows impact on our lives? Do they mean anything? Shadows come in many forms. They can come as temptations, obsessions, addictions, co-dependency, and other forms of indulgence. Shadows appear in the darkness cloaked in fear; shake us at our core.
Shadows also show as projections. It can be a dislike of certain traits in people, unjustified, and unexplainable. We don't like what we see; perhaps it mirrors part of us that we choose to ignore or may not even be aware of.
Are you comfortable with your friends? If not, ask yourself, why do you hang out with them? Do you judge them harshly? If so, why do you share your precious time with them?
Do you tend to make a compromise that you can not meet? What about the times you get angry at the slightest provocation at times by the same person.
5. LEAN IN ON YOUR SHADOW SIDE, REMEMBER YIN/YANG, WITH THE LIGHT COMES THE DARK
There are times we look for our shadows in the face of other people. We even attract them into our lives. These shadows may drive us to places we dare not go.
6. THE SHADOW SIDE IS A MIRROR OF YOUR POWER, YOUR PASSION, YOUR HONESTY
Pundits would say it is not wise to deny the shadow element. They believe the only way is to confront it, deal with it, and work through the conflicts it creates.
Each one has their personal demons to deal with and to face. Otherwise, it follows us in less conscious ways. There are lessons from the shadow element. To become aware of it, we need to go deeper into ourselves, be all that we can be, assuredly.
We can take the good. Work with the bad, see the light, face the darkness without fear. Go deep within; let the fears and insecurities buried deep within the surface. Confront the anger seething under the skin.
We are not perfect. No matter how many dark clouds hover above us, no matter how long the dark night is, light will surely come. Our Shadows offer a chance to enrich and nourish our spirit, our soul, and our lives. It helps us to align ourselves with our highest purpose.
By striving for more excellent balance, endurance, and perspective, we generate more personal power and strength.
The more we learn to love the darkest part, the shadows of ourselves, the stronger we become. Tarot doesn't let us hide from our shadows.
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